Retro RIP to Rumson’s Don Blesse

By Elaine Van Develde

Don Blesse lived in Rumson for nearly half a century.

The U.S. Navy World War II and Korean War veteran raised his family in Rumson. And every Memorial and Veterans Day service you’d see the tall, gentleman front-and-center at Victory Park paying ode to fallen fellow vets, hat to his heart.

In fact, it was not too long ago, in May, when we last saw Blesse in his usual spot at the Rumson Memorial Day service.

Now we know that he will be missing at the Veterans Day service in November. That’s because he passed away at 89 on Aug. 12.

We remember Mr. Blesse. We knew his kids. We went to RFH with them. And while we did not know their dad well, we knew he was a vet. We knew he was a father of three. We knew he was excited a couple of years ago, when we chatted with him after a Veteran’s Day service, to soon be on his way to a visit with them.

Sporting his signature veteran’s hat, he modestly talked about how he was an aviation electrician who worked on aircraft carriers in the Atlantic Ocean during the war.

He was proud, yet soft-spoken and modest. You could see his love of country and hometown. He wore it in his smile and demeanor, his bride, the mother of his children still by his side, also smiling contentedly.

He said nothing about working tirelessly to bring that veteran’s memorial to Victory Park that day. We read that in his obituary.

Don Blesse died on Aug. 12 at his relatively new home in Red Bank. He won’t be at the next memorial service in town. His simple legacy will.

We missed his own memorial service. But, we haven’t forgotten him.

People like him shouldn’t be forgotten — people living their lives, cognizant of and considerate of the people in them, serving their country and community in modest, meaningful ways, doing the right thing.

It was nice to have that brief chat with that dad and man behind the kids we knew that one day, a couple of years ago. It was good to get that glimpse — however fleeting — of yet another person who had passed through our lives, in an unobtrusive way, through his children, through his sometimes everyday, sometimes grander contributions to the community.

“Speak to people.” It’s what Fair Haven Police Chief Darryl Breckenridge told us was his mother’s best advice to him in life.

She was right. One hello, one day, brought a little insight into a life and a nice surprise. And every time we saw Don Blesse after that, we remembered a little something about him.

Now we say goodbye, never forgetting the hello.

RIP Mr. Blesse. Condolences to Carol, Paul, Donald and Ken — and your  many friends and extended family.

Don Blesse’s obituary from Thompson Memorial Home

Donald Edwin Blesse, 89, of Red Bank died at home on Wednesday, Aug. 12, 2015.

He was born in Weehawken and lived in Rumson and Little Silver before moving to Red Bank three years ago.

He was a tall, friendly and kind man who willingly served for many years in the communities in which he lived and his church. After earning a bachelor’s and master’s degree in Business Administration from Rutgers University, he worked for Bell Laboratories for 38 years before retiring in 1987.

He honorably served in the US Navy as an Aviation Electrician’s Mate aboard aircraft carriers during WWII and the Korean War.

Continually steadfast in his faith as a member of St. George’s by the River Episcopal Church for 53 years, he served as church school Superintendent for 28 years, Canterbury Fair treasurer, sang in the choir and was on the Vestry.

In Rumson, he was on the school board, active as a leader in Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts, and in later years worked tirelessly to create a new veterans’ memorial in Victory Park.

He is survived by: his wife of 63 years, Carol Einbeck Blesse; three sons, Donald A. Blesse, of Lakewood, OH; Ken Blesse, of Fairview Park, OH; Paul Blesse, of Johns Creek, GA; five grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.

In lieu of flowers, donations in his name would be welcome to the St. George’s Outreach or Memorial funds, 7 Lincoln Avenue, Rumson, NJ 07760; www.stgeorgesrumson.org. In the notes section, please identify which fund.

The Crabbiest Captain in Rumson

“It was a great time,” Rumson Police Chief Scott Paterson told Rumson-Fair Haven Retrospect on Monday, chatting a little about the weekend’s ninth annual Rumson PBA Crab Tournament.

A local guy, he said, won. That guy — along with his boatload of crabbers — was Captain Don Schneider with a bucket full of 50 crabs.

The chief and several other crabbers were already out in crabbing waters by the time Rumson-Fair Haven Retrospect arrived, but some sights were caught.

If you haven’t already seen it, check out the above slideshow of the scene around. And thanks to the Rumson PBA Facebook page for the pic of the winning crew! Congrats, Captain Schneider!

Memorial Services for Rumson’s Bob Jones Set

Bob Jones, of Rumson, passed away on Aug. 16. Photo/courtesy of Thompson Memorial Home
Bob Jones, of Rumson, passed away on Aug. 16.
Photo/courtesy of Thompson Memorial Home

Services are set for Monday for Rumson’s Robert (Bob) S. Jones, Jr., former president of Rumson Country Club Board and trustee of the Riverview Medical Center Foundation, who died Sunday, Aug. 16, after a losing a courageous battle with cancer. He was 74.

His obituary on the Thompson Memorial Home website, says …

Born in Baltimore, Bob attended Lower Merion High School where he met the love of his life, Sharon. After high school, he enlisted in the U.S. Navy, where he served from 1959 to 1962.

A 1987 graduate of the Advanced Management Program at Harvard University,having earned both his CLU designation (1971) and ChFC degree(1982), he got his undergraduate degree in economics from Gettysburg College in 1965.

In the summer of 1965, Bob began his 42-year career with AXA Equitable Life Insurance Company (formerly The Equitable Life Assurance Society of the U.S.), serving as an advisor, district and agency manager, and in the company’s marketing and retail operations as well as executive vice president, head of Retail and chairman of company advisors.

 

Bob had myriad professional and community affiliations. He was president of the Pittsburgh Life Underwriters, president of the Agency Round Table, a board member of the LUTC, president of Equitable’s Management Association, and a member of the Million Dollar Roundtable.

Bob was also a board member of the Riverview Medical Center Foundation, served on the Marine Corps Scholarship Foundation, and the U.S.O. of Metropolitan New York, and was a trustee emeritus of Gettysburg College.

He was a member of: the Pittsburgh Field Club, where he served as a board member from 1980-84; Rumson Country Club, where he served as a board member from 2000-06, and president from 2003-06; the Sailfish Point Foundation, the Sailfish Point Golf Board and the Sailfish Point Marina Board; the Medalist Golf Club and the Stone Harbor Golf Club.

After retiring, Bob enjoyed golfing, bird hunting, fishing and thoroughbred racehorse ownership, his latest hobby.

“As part of ABL Stables (formerly BDL Stables), Bob found tremendous joy in each and every racehorse he owned,” his obituary said. “Bob was also a lifelong Pittsburgh Steelers fan, never giving up his season tickets even after he moved to New Jersey. However, Bob’s greatest happiness came from his family. He became known around town as “Big Bob” shortly after his first grandchild was born.

“Bob made an impact on everyone around him, with his zest for life, his kindness and his generosity. He will be forever missed by the numerous people whose lives he touched.”

Bob is survived by: his wife of 52 years, Sharon Jones, of Rumson; his daughter, Kelly DalPra and husband Kenny, of Rumson; his daughter, Kirsten Ward, and husband Chris, of Fair Haven; his daughter Ashley Jones and Sue Dillon of Fair Haven; and his son, Matt Jones and wife Elaine, of Fair Haven; his eight grandchildren, Robert, Klayton, Kyle, Marin, Brayden, Liam, May and Milo; his brother, Elliot Jones and wife Melanie, of Florida; and many nieces, nephews and friends.

Visitation will be held from 2 to 4 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m. on Monday, Aug. 24 at Thompson Memorial Home, 310 Broad Street, Red Bank.

A memorial Mass will follow on Tuesday, Aug. 25, at 11 a.m. at The Church of the Nativity, 180 Ridge Road, Fair Haven.

Burial will be private. In lieu of flowers, the family has asked that donations be made in his memory to the American Cancer Society, P.O. Box 22718, Oklahoma City, OK 73123, 1-800-227-2345 or online at www.cancer.org/donate.

Fair Haven Police Lt. McGovern Promoted to Captain

By Elaine Van Develde

The smile is the same. The stripes on the uniform are different.

On the heels of Fair Haven Police Chief Darryl Breckenridge’s announcement of retirement, longtime Fair Haven police officer Joseph McGovern was promoted from lieutenant to captain at Monday night’s Borough Council meeting.

The promotion is a significant one in light of the fact that while the police department’s staffing model hierarchy allows for a captain in the department the position has not been filled since retired Captain Paul McCue was on the force several years ago.

Caught readying himself to get to the meeting outside the police station, McGovern gave Rumson-Fair Haven Retrospect his signature smile and a wave, for which he is known throughout town, as he gussied himself up, hopped in his SUV and headed a couple blocks over.

He was met with a packed meeting room full of beaming, congratulatory officials, neighboring police and chiefs, family and friends.

Welcoming all, Chief Breckenridge pointed out that “when you rise to the level of captain, it shows when you see the network of support from (police in) surrounding towns …” Among those in that support network were Rumson Police Chief Scott Paterson and Red Bank Police Chief Darren McConnell, both Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School graduates.

First thanking the officers of the department for their “continued dedication” and saying “you guys do an excellent job, and I couldn’t be more proud,” Breckenridge singled out McGovern’s family and told them, “you should be very proud of Joe. He worked very hard to get where he is going tonight … I’m sure Joe’s going to do a terrific job.”

McGovern’s journey to the captain’s position has been a long, hard-earned, diligent one, the chief said, starting nearly 30 years ago.

He recounted it. McGovern started in the department in 1987 as a dispatcher. In 1989, he became a special officer. In 1991, he became a probationary patrolman, then detective and OEM coordinator, which he still is.

In 2006, McGovern became a sergeant. And in 2008, he rose to the rank of lieutenant. Now he’s a captain. He has also earned a bachelor’s degree in business administration and attended the prestigious FBI Academy.

“Joe has worked very hard with his promotional process, doing the right thing and doing his job,” Breckenridge said. “I am so proud and happy to stand here before you and congratulate you first, captain.”

With a smile, his wife holding the bible and two boys by his side, Mayor Ben Lucarelli administered the oath of office to McGovern.

With a modest smile and a simple “thank you” to “everyone for coming out,” McGovern said, “It’s been a long process and it’s finally here.”

Five stripes. Same smile. Same dedication.

McGovern will serve as acting chief as of Oct. 1, the official start day of Breckenridge’s retirement. Sgt. Robert Townshend is slated for a promotion to lieutenant. The new chief has not yet been chosen.

Retro Fair Balloon Ladies

The Grab Bag Booth ladies at Fair Haven Firemen's Fair 2014 Photo/Elaine Van Develde
The Grab Bag Booth ladies at Fair Haven Firemen’s Fair 2014
Photo/Elaine Van Develde

Grab a bag … or a booth — a Fair Haven Firemen’s Fair booth … and remember those who run it or ran it.

That’s what we’re doing. After all, what would that tradition be without the people who run and work the fair?

So, first in this fair booth series, today’s Retro Pic of the Day honors some fair ladies at the Grab Bag Booth, otherwise known as the balloon ladies. When kids don’t win a prize at a game booth, this is the place the parents take them to get some fair token — like a balloon.

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Getting Crabby in Rumson for the PBA

“Good luck out there!” a man shouted as he waved to crabbers launching their boat into the water,  all set with a plethora of fishing-appropriate nets, cages and buckets.

Saturday evening was looking pretty mellow as a few more boats hit the waters of the river by the Rumson Municipal Boat Launch for the  PBA Crab Tournament.

The tournament was slated to last until 10 p.m. By about 6:30, about half an hour after the tournament’s official start, only a couple of boatfulls of crabbers could be spotted near the launch.

Take a look at the above slideshow for a glimpse into the evening’s event and the scene around it (Don’t forget to click on the lower right icon to enlarge!). The Rumson PBA has not yet reported who won. As soon as that information is shared, it will be added. 

 

Police Report Drug Possession, Assault, DWI Arrests

The following recent arrests were made and reported by Red Bank police. An arrest does not constitute a conviction.

• Antonio Carino-Martinez, 35, of Red Bank, was arrested on Aug. 9 in the area of Herbert Street and charged with simple assault by Patrolman Sean Hauschildt.

• Davion Watkins, 31, of Red Bank, was arrested on Aug. 9  in the area of Leroy Place and charged with obstruction of administration of law, resisting arrest, possession of prescription legend drugs and on a contempt of court charge by Patrolman Sean Hauschildt.

• Vincent Cooper, 29, of Hamilton Square, was arrested on Aug. 8 in the area of Riverview Plaza and charged with taking by means of conveyance by Patrolman Dave Smith.

• Felipe Valente-Olivares, 35, of Red Bank, was arrested on Aug. 8 in the area of Washington Street and charged with simple assault by Patrolman Sean Hauschildt.

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A Jazzy Night on the Fair Haven Dock

 

It was a night of music, mingling and moseying down by the river.

The final Concert at the Fair Haven Dock in the summer season was Saturday — right in the middle of a summer heatwave and in time for another iconic sunset on the Navesink River.

Jazz group Lakewood Keys Jazz Band played and locals and fans from nearby towns of the band flocked to the dock.

A jazzy night was had by all.

Take a look at the slideshow above for a glimpse into the evening. Be sure to click the lower right icon on the slideshow to enlarge! Enjoy!

DWI Checkpoint in Monmouth Beach

Police have announced that there will be a sobriety/DWI checkpoint in Monmouth Beach from Saturday night to early Sunday morning.

From 10 p.m. Saturday night until 2 a.m. on Sunday, the Monmouth Beach police and members of the Monmouth County DWI Task Force will be pulling drivers over from southbound lanes on Ocean Avenue into the Monmouth Beach Cultural Center parking lot to test those suspected of driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs for sobriety, according to Task Force Coordinator and Brielle Police Chief Michael Palmer said.

 

 

The R-FH Area Weekend: Concert on FH Dock, Rumson PBA Crab Tournament & More

The sun will be shining this weekend, so the National Weather Service says.

So, the timing is right for the outdoor events on the calendar.

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Police Report Theft, Criminal Mischief Close By

The following recent criminal incidents were reported by Red Bank police:

• An incident of criminal mischief was reported to have occurred on July 23 at a N. Bridge Avenue parking lot. The victim reported that someone keyed his parked vehicle in several spots.

Patrolman Michael Zadlock took the report.

• A theft was reported to have occurred on July 24 on Riverside Avenue. The victim reported that someone stole a pay check from the center console of a parked car.

Patrolman John Camarca took the report.

• A theft was reported to have occurred on Branch Avenue on July 31. The victim reported that someone entered his apartment and stole a bottle of prescription pain medication.

Patrolman Patrick Kennedy took the report.

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Retro Chief Darryl Breckenridge as an RFH Senior

Fair Haven Police Chief Darryl Breckenridge in his 1976 RFH Yearbook photo Photo/RFH Yearbook screenshot
Fair Haven Police Chief Darryl Breckenridge in his 1976 RFH Yearbook photo
Photo/RFH Yearbook screenshot

Yes, Fair Haven Police Chief Darryl Breckenridge is retiring.

Pretty much everyone in the Rumson-Fair Haven area now knows that he is calling a close to his 35-year career in law enforcement.

The chief was raised in Fair Haven. And, like most Fair Havenites, he went to Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School. He graduated in 1976, America’s bicentennial year. It was also an era of Huckapoo shirts, lambswool-lined jackets, Wallabees, topsiders and host of other fashion fatalities of their time.

So, the Retro Pic of the Day honors the chief stylin’ in his graduating year RFH Yearbook photo. He wore the trend well.

Pretty hip, huh? What was your favorite 70s style?

Hmmmmm. The chief looks a lot like his son D.J., director of Fair Haven Recreation, in this shot, right?

— Elaine Van Develde