A Retro Ode to R-FH Area Dads

We say it every year, and it bears repeating …

Yesterday was Father’s Day.

And, we at Rumson-Fair Haven Retrospect are of the mind that the day is really about much more than flipping a burger and patting a good ol’ dad on the back.

It’s bigger than that. It goes way beyond your own dad’s back yard and a grilling or two.

Growing up in a small-town niche like the Rumson-Fair Haven area carries with it that family tie feeling. Some of us were fortunate enough to have great dads. Some not.

But, what we all somehow did and still do have is a strong kinship to the dads of our towns. Even if we just recall a look, a bellowing chide or a chuckle over some stupid kid thing we did, we remember the dads with whom we grew up.

Now, many of those kids are dads, too, and living where their dads raised them. Perhaps, or likely, finding themselves bellowing the same chidings, trying to impart the same wisdom.

So many of these men were volunteers we saw all over town, characters whose nuances or sayings we remember, or that one poor patient guy who ended up being the poor soul to pick us up when we were stupid enough to get caught hurling eggs and toilet paper on Mischief Night — or something equally as dumb.

Yes, we do and should memorialize our own dads. Believe me, I, for one, am still looking for that money tree my dad told me was in the back yard and that gal named Dumb Dori whom he said I emulated when lacking “street smarts” to a pathetic degree.

Yet, I also vividly remember the calm, “I’m going to kill those idiots” smile on my friend Stephanie’s dad when he picked us up at the police station after following through on a really dumb dare. Then there was the “To tell you the truth, my friend, I don’t know” quote that consistently came out of Daryl’s dad’s mouth as he shook his head in wonderment over our mangled teen logic.

There were those dads for all of us — each leaving his own patriarchal imprint in our juvenile minds. For them we are grateful — for raising us here, for coming together to protect and nurture us and for offering a communal scolding or 100, for loving all their village’s children.

They were part of this community’s foundation — everyone’s founding fathers.

Our Retro Pic (or video) of the Day honors the area’s dads of those days for those reasons and so many more.

We don’t have nearly enough photos to encapsulate all the love and all of the dads, but this is a sufficient sampling to get the message across.

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads in the community who have been there for us and given us lessons and words to live by!

— Photos/courtesy of Rumson, Fair Haven family members via Facebook

Focus: RFH Class of 2017 Graduation … Before the Walk

Before the Pomp and Circumstance, those backstage moments with graduates are like that cumulative, final high five among friends — the smiles, the tears, the jokes, the barbs … up to that walk to the diploma and the goodbye to high school.

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Retro RFH Graduation Times

Well, graduation is upon the RFH Class of 2017.

What better time than to take a look back at a couple of RFH graduations of the past?

So, in order to pay homage to the evening, the Retro Pic(s) of the Day offer a look back at a couple of the milestone days in RFH history.

Above is a photo from the RFH Class of 1979’s graduation at Borden Stadium, taken by George Day. There are also a couple of pics looking back at the RFH Class of  2013 graduation when it poured just after the start of the ceremony and it had to be quickly moved inside. Below is a look at the 2016 graduation at Monmouth University, where they now take place.

Share your photos of past RFH graduations with us by emailing them, with proper credit, to evd@rfhretro.com.

In the meantime, congrats to the RFH Class of 2017!

 

 

Prosecutor: Former Shore Regional Business Administrator Pleads Guilty to Theft Charges

The former business administrator for the Shore Regional High School District pleaded guilty on Monday to a series of charges related to the theft of school funds, Monmouth County Prosecutor Christopher J. Gramiccioni announced.

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Retro Keepin’ it Cool with RFH Teens

A summer day at Great Adventure with RFHers of the late 1970s/early '80s. Photo/Marc Edelman
A summer day at Great Adventure with RFHers of the late 1970s/early ’80s.
Photo/Marc Edelman

The scorching summer heat lately has made taking a flying leap into a fountain, or any body of water, a goal to which many aspire — and attain as the need to cool down beckons.

In fact, summer days, for RFHers, weren’t always all about beach clubbing it and keeping cool, fun times local.

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Focus: Fair Haven Day 2017

It all started six years ago with a centennial celebration. Now, six years later, a community tradition begun continues — Fair Haven Day.

The weather was more than fair for the annual fete, bringing community cohorts together to celebrate the borough they’ve made home.

There was plenty of sunshine, food, drink, festivities and fun to be had.

Take a look … (And DON’T FORGET TO ClICK TO ENLARGE!)

— Elaine Van Develde

Retro Fair Haven Day with Lifetime Friends

Fair Haven Day 2015 with lifetime friends
Photo/Elaine Van Develde

Fair Haven Day is now a new tradition in the community.

So, on the cusp of the event slated for Saturday, we look back to a Fair Haven Day of 2015 and remember a bond of friendship that started in town.

Ben Hamilton, who is no longer with us, was a Fair Haven kid. From the time he was a kid, he forged a lasting friendship with Dave Becker, Cathy Mazza Becker and his significant other, Wendy Ostrov Delehanty.

The four got together at Fair Haven Day 2015, all smiles, keeping that lifetime friendship going strong.

It turned out to be Ben’s last Fair Haven Day. RIP, Ben.

Have thanked a lifetime friend for their friendship lately?