Category Archives: Obituaries

Remembering Rumson Girl, Fair Haven Mom, Helen Apy

“When tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart. For every time you think of me, I’m right here in your heart.”  

And she is remembered and in the hearts of many as girl who grew up in Rumson, graduated from RFH and raised her family in Fair Haven. She is remembered as a longtime Fair Haven mom, neighbor and friend. She is Helen Apy.

Helen passed away at the age of 81 on May 18. She will be remembered with at service at 2 p.m. on Saturday at The United Methodist Church of Red Bank 247 Broad Street, Red Bank. Home.

Helen Apy

Many remember Helen as Karen and Ed’s mom and a Fair Haven recreational girls’ softball and basketball coach and referee. They remember seeing her friendly smile and wave in the Acme. They remember her as a welcoming neighbor whose home was always open to friends and family. Messages of sympathy flooded social media upon Helen’s death. But, yesteryear neighbor Robin Drake Fitch summed up the sentiments with her tribute:

“I grew up with Mrs. Helen Apy as our wonderful, kind, caring, warm-hearted, generous, strong in so many ways, backdoor neighbor at the corner of Dartmouth and Hunting,” she said. “I learned so much from her. Just a few weeks ago I was telling a friend about her, and something she taught me over 50 years ago about respect! Long lasting lessons from a loving neighbor and friend.”

Yes, those are the subtle, yet lasting memories of community that stay with us forever. Many of us have theses memories of the mom of someone with whom we grew up. Several moms, perhaps. I know I do.

I, too, remember Mrs. Apy. I remember her sincere, warm smile. I remember her direct, caring demeanor. I somehow remember her laugh. I remember her chatting with my mom in the Acme, too. She was one of those ever-present Fair Haven moms. I didn’t know her as well as her neighbors or family, but I do remember her. I knew that she was there, one of those forever Fair Haven moms and neighbors, embracing what was the Fair Haven family without prejudice or pretense. I remember her, like many other Fair Haven moms, caring for people, not things. I remember that she embodied the moms with whom we grew up and respected. And she respected, too. Respect. I do not know what her lesson of respect for her neighbor kid Robin entailed, but I suspect it was one that resonated with clarity.

I know that her own acceptance and respect did. It showed up in her words and smile. More importantly, she showed up. In fact, many years ago, Helen went out of her way to get a message of thanks to me for a memorial piece I wrote about her dear friend. He was another piece of home. I never forgot him or her words of appreciation. It came from a heart at home, after all.

I browsed through Helen Apy’s public Facebook page to honor and remember her. I saw pictures of her happy with her family and her friends. I saw pictures of her Fair Haven home. I saw happy memories. I saw smiles. Then I saw a post from 2018 in which she was looking to come home again, on the hunt for an affordable place. She had been living in North Carolina. A friend told her to stay there. “It’s too expensive here,” she said. “You don’t like it?” Helen’s answer: “I miss home too much.”

Well, you made it back home, Helen. I and many others understand all too well the value of that Fair Haven home and heart. It bears no price tag. And it has nothing to do with property value or nitpicking curb appeal now does it? Rest in peace. You are home. You are remembered.

From Helen Apy’s obituary … some more about her …

Helen Lee Apy, age 81, long time resident of Monmouth County died May 18 at Meridian Health Rehabilitation Center in Shrewsbury.

She was born on May 29, 1937 in Bronx, NY. She grew up in Rumson and graduated from RFH in 1955. She then received her associates degree in Physical Education from Brookdale Community College.

In her free time she was an active member of the First United Methodist Church in Red Bank and spent most of her adult life coaching and refereeing recreational girls softball and basketball in Fair Haven.

She fought for women’s and civil rights her entire life, even attending the March On Washington in 1963.

She is best known for her love of the New York Yankees and her “boyfriend” Derek Jeter as well her endless love and support for her children and grandchildren.

She is survived by: her two children, Edward Apy and wife Kathy Apy, and Karen Apy; grandchildren, Charlie Apy, Nicole Cebulko, Ryan Cebulko, Courtney Glubo and her husband Ryan Glubo; and her great-grandchild Sophie Lee Glubo.

She is predeceased by: her parents Eileen Klamka and John Lee, her brother Joseph Lee Jr., as well as her son Baby Boy Apy and granddaughter Isabella Apy. 

The family asks that in lieu of flowers and in honor of her years of volunteer service, please send any donations in honor of Helen to the Salvation Army. 

Remembrance: Fair Haven Teacher Mildred Stout, 93

Most anyone who was schooled in Fair Haven from the 1960s through the 1990s remembers Mrs. Stout. Mildred Stout. She was a first-grade teacher who had that classic kind teacher demeanor and left her mark on many elementary school students.

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A Final Birthday Tribute to Charles Cady

Charles Cady’s Porsche parade
Photo/Cady family

Longtime former Fair Havenite Charles Cady is remembered for many things: his service in the U.S. Air Force, his engineering expertise, his love of good music and storytelling, his fondness for friends not yet met, his keen memory and wit, and, his passion for the Porsche and a good life’s ride.

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In Memorium: Fair Haven’s Sondra M. Krueger, 87

Sondra M. Krueger

Native Fair Havenite Sondra M. Krueger passed away at her home on April 6. She was 87.

Born in Fair Haven to the late William and Rekealth (Martin) Meyer, Sondra had lived in Middletown before returning to and settling in Fair Haven.

She loved to cook, cheer on her Mets, visit Disney World as much as she could, and spend every second spent with her ever-growing family.  

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In Memorium: Lifetime Rumsonite, Vet, Former Police Chief, Robert B. Zerr Jr.

The following obituary was prepared by Bob Zerr himself and dictated to his friend of 53 years, David C. Foster, also known as UD. It was published on the Thompson Memorial Home website.

Robert B. Zerr Jr., a lifelong resident of Rumson, passed away on March 29 at home. 

He was preceded in death by his wife of 49 years, Sharon. He is survived by: his daughter Terri Jo Zerr; his sister Linda Feeny and her husband Vinny; niece Susan and husband Frank Leslie; nephew John Feeny and wife Dianne; sister-in-law Susan Herman and her husband Ronzel; granddaughters Haleigh, Jackie, Lacee, Brandee; and great-granddaughters Macie, Zelda, Emrys, Guinevere.

Bob was known best by his friends as “Bee Zee.” He served with the U.S. Army from 1956-1962, serving 16 months in Korea. He was a life member of PBA Local 345, exempt member of Rumson First Aid Squad, Monmouth County Police Chiefs Association and a member of the Rumson Police Department from 1960-1988, serving the last three years as Chief of Police. 

Those who knew him well would agree that he was a humanitarian, a staunch defender of the right and a consummate American patriot. He also played softball for many years at Piping Rock in Rumson. He will be missed.

There will be no viewing or services. Burial will be private in the veteran’s section of Fair View Cemetery along with Sharon in Middletown, NJ. 

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made in his memory to the Wounded Warriors Assoc., PO Box 758517, Topeka, Kansas 66675 or to any other disabled Veterans organization. Thompson Memorial Home, Red Bank was entrusted with his care. 


Memorial Set for Longtime Rumsonite, Surfer, Musician, RFH Grad, Greg Weber, 66

He was a husband, a father, a son, a brother, an uncle, a surfer, a rocker, a warrior, a friend. He was a longtime Rumsonite and Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School (RFH) graduate. He was Gregory S. Weber and he passed away on March 1 at his Long Branch home. He was 66.

Known to many as someone who loved and lived life to the fullest, Greg was born in Newark, NJ. A graduate of RFH and the University of Colorado, he traveled the world, but was always happiest at the Jersey Shore, family said in his obituary.

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Remembrance: Longtime Rumson-Fair Havenite, RFH Grad, Daryl Cooper Ley, 58

“There are places I remember … all my life, though some have changed. Some forever not for better. Some have gone and some remained. All these places have their moments, with lovers and friends I still can recall … In my life, I’ve loved them all.”

In My Life ~ The Beatles

And those who knew her, loved her right back …
She was Daryl Cooper Ley.

She grew up in Fair Haven, an adventurous girl who could sport scuffed knees, pigtails, snap some Double Bubble Bubble Gum bubbles and vroom a moped like no other. She was a Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School (RFH) grad with many a prank to pull, paper airplane to fly and hearty hyena laughs to share. She was a supportive, fun Rumson mom and wife with a brazen love of all babies, children, adolescents and teens. She was a compassionate philanthropist. She was a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a friend.

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